I’m leaving on the next train…. Wait, that’s a song title, not my next step. Of course “On the Road Again” is also a song but that more closely reflects what’s about to happen today. It’s also the title of a previous post but that has no real bearing here. That was camping, this is a road trip, by car.
I’ve been away from home for a week now. Really 8 days but who’s counting? This whole adventure is partly a life experiment and partly an opportunity to reconnect with friends and family I haven’t seen for a while. In my Aunts and Uncles case it could be 20+ years. I don’t really recall the last time I saw some of them.
The life experiment part is a little harder to explain. Sometimes it can be a challenge for me to pass information on concisely so I question whether I should try to do so here, but what the heck nothing ventured nothing gained.
It all started back in the summer of ’72…… Well, that may be a bit too far back but it was when I met my wife and she has a bearing on this story. Fast forward to a more reasonable time period, say earlier this spring (2012) to my retirement and just subsequent to it.
I adapted to the idea of being at home (I think) but there was, and still is, some adjustment required when it comes to my wife and I occupying the same space in the early morning, before she leaves for work. This hasn’t presented any arguments or ill will but it has stimulated discussion, and that’s a good thing. Better to talk than yell I think. Everything they say is true, when one spouse retires it certainly provides challenges for the other, actually both if you think about it.
So to make a long story less long we discussed the option of me taking a bit of a road trip at this time, a time when she is just beginning her school year as a Child car worker and things are already stressful. There are little side stories to her responsibilities which complicate things further and add to this stressful time but needless to say after talking it out we both liked the idea of me heading out for a while and her having some “alone time” so she can re-adjust to the idea of being back at work. It was also a good fit for me, because while we were able to travel a lot this past summer there were still places I wanted to go and people I wanted to meet. The idea of a road trip was a win-win.
To begin this adventure. we both went to Kelowna a week ago last Friday to see our daughter and family. It was a nice treat because they were going to a wedding out of town and we would be taking over sole responsibility of Madden’s care (new grandson) while they were away. Our first over-nighter, there first night away from the baby. We handled the challenge admirably and while my wife wanted to stay a bit longer after the babysitting tour she had to get back home. I took her to the bus on Sunday afternoon. She was back to the grind Monday.
I stayed in Kelowna until Tuesday when I left to go to my brothers in the Vancouver area. We had a really nice visit and I left there Thursday, hopped on the ferry and stopped at our friends house in Saanich to commiserate with them.
The rest is history as they say. I left there this morning and now here I sit, having some lunch and a beer, taking care of some business and leaving shortly to visit a friend for a day or so. From there I’ll try to connect with my Aunts and Uncles and then perhaps go to the Sunshine Coast for a brief alone time before heading out again.
I’ll endeavour to provide an update, goodness knows my record isn’t the best for posting lately but I’ll see if I can pick up my socks. Bear with me please.
On a more personal note perhaps I’ve been feeling pretty good lately, emotionally. I don’t feel depressed, or at least most of the times I don’t. I still struggle with understanding if the issue is really depression or just pronounced mood swings. Maybe I’ll get smarter as I age. Time will tell.
Perhaps this road trip will also be an opportunity for me to learn more about myself. I often hear people say “I know so much more about myself now”, or “I want to learn who I am”. Although I aspire to acquire this knowledge to date it’s escaped me. I really don’t know what more I can learn. I think I’m an open book but perhaps I’ve not read every chapter. I hope the road can tell me.